We're Going to the Chapel and We're (possibly) Gonna Get Married

As I write this we are 6 months into the Covid-19 “situation” and for weddings things are getting tougher rather than easier.  Whilst some restrictions have been lifted, weddings have become more restricted, with the limit on guests now down to 15 from 30.  If you were planning a wedding during this time, what are your options?

 

Well, in essence you have two options – postpone or have a micro wedding.  Whichever you choose is the right choice for you.

 

Postpone

I can’t begin to understand how hard it must be when you have to “pull the trigger” on postponing your wedding.  Just remember – as I have said before  – it is only the date that is changing.  Your love is unchanged, you are still getting married, just on another date.  Talk to your venue and to your suppliers – and do it quickly!  The reality is that the longer this goes on the more congested dates are going to be – and in my opinion we are looking at two years until we can catch up.  Don’t panic!  You will find a date, and most, if not all, of your suppliers will hopefully be able to be with you on your new date. (If they can’t, they should be returning any deposits that you have paid, minus reasonable expenses for work already carried out - Gov't advice )

 

Micro Weddings

It may be that the right choice for you is to go ahead with your wedding day.  If you do (at time of writing) you will be able to have a wedding with 15 people at it, including any celebration afterwards.  Does this affect your love?  Does it make you any less married?  No, not at all!  So what might you like to do?

With 15 at your wedding you will still be getting married to the one you love in front of your closest friends and family. 

You can still share the event with others – streaming works for meetings and even music concerts, so why not your wedding?  It can be as simple as a single static camera or more complicated if you use a specialist (who doesn’t count as part of your 15).  Maybe consider a videographer (if you weren’t before) and share your wedding that way.

Have you thought about getting married twice?  Recently I was involved in a wedding where the couple had their civil ceremony and then had a “blessing” by a family member attended by a different group. You may need to check any local restrictions, and I can’t vouch for any interpretations of changes to law – but these are just some ideas for “thinking outside the box”.

Consider your “micro wedding” in the same way as an elopement.  Have your wedding day and then – whenever we are able to – have the big party!  Wear the dress, put on a suit, cut the cake and make speeches.  This way you can have a romantic, intimate wedding for 15 – perhaps a nice dinner, live music – and also have the big party without that wedding day stress!

 

Whichever option you choose, postpone or go ahead, do what feels right for you, and if we can be of any help to you – just ask!